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The words we say... “Speak out in anger and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” One of my friends posted this statement from Tara Brach. I found it very interesting because every one of us at least once (many for me) has this experience of saying things that we don’t mean and ended up regretting every word we said. When we are angry do you think the truth comes out or we just said things that we don’t mean? Both can be true, but in most cases it is the latter. Sometimes, when we are angry, our emotions get the best of us and our mouth becomes an open gate to say everything that we’ve been keeping for so long. These are the “painful truths” that only come out when we are angry. Our anger fuels our courage to say what has been bottled up inside. However, after bursting out all our anger, it is impossible to erase those words and feelings that have been revealed. Everybody say stupid things when angry. Most of the times when we are angry we say things that...

Unbreakable Bond of Sisterhood I love them. I hate them. I love them. I hate them. These are thoughts only a person with a sister understands, or in my case a bunch of sisters! Do you have a sister? Me, I have five! Let me tell you something about me. I am the youngest of 7 siblings. We are 6 girls and a boy. Being the youngest of the siblings I can tell you that the youngest is not always the spoiled and favourite one. Flash back 30 years ago, circa 1980s during my childhood days, I was the one who was always ask to buy this and to do that. In short, I was the default errand boy or in my case errand girl. I was obedient to my elder sisters (for sure my sisters will object and say “Really?”), they may disagree, but I did what I knew was right. It’s true that you can choose your friends but not your family. My sisters are my true friends and my worst enemies I have ever had but I love them so much despite our differences and I won’t trade them for anything in this ...

A relationship without arguments is not a real relationship. Argument often happens because of misunderstandings. This is very true in our relationship and I’m sure ours is not the only one. The toughest part of every argument is what happens after. How do we reconcile? Who to talk first? What to say? Before getting married, we attended our pre-cana. For those who don’t know what a pre-cana is, it is a course or consultation for couples preparing to be married in a Catholic church. Our wedding priest told us that instead of saying “I’m sorry”, tell your spouse “please forgive me”. What is the difference between “I’m sorry” and “please forgive me”? The easier way to ask for forgiveness is saying “I’m sorry”. But are you really asking for forgiveness or you’re just saying it to get the apology over with? Saying “I’m sorry” has no feel of sincerity on it. Actually, it asks for nothing and there is no feeling of atonement or acceptance of fault. On the other hand, saying ...

Have you heard the phrase “You are what you eat”? It’s kinda weird but come to think of it, it’s really true. What you eat defines your personality. What you eat affects your mood, looks and health. Every food you take is important. So better choose the healthy ones. I’m a fan of organic food! I guess this is the type of food that best describes me. NO GMOs and pesticides, and surely healthy. Just like me simple, natural and private (hehehe). If you have a space for a garden, learn to plant veggies and fruits using natural fertilizers. I encourage everyone to start consuming organic foods and to know the benefits it can give. How your food is grown is important to your health. Have you ever notice a person after going to a healthy diet course looks differently from before? If she looked dry and uncomfortable last time, she becomes blooming and more energetic. Then you’ll probably tell her, “You lose weight, Oh you look great!” or sometimes “You gain weight, you look so much ...

I don’t know how to start this when my topic is about TRUST. Actually, I had trust issues with others but later on I’ve learned how to deal with it. Maybe because I was seriously traumatized during my past experiences with a loveone, a friend or even a family member. I had experiences of being emotionally hurt and betrayed. I don’t have any words on how to describe my feelings when I gave my best and everything to them and in the end they would disrespect me and made me feel stupid.  It is sad to think that everyone of us had been in the losing end of betrayal when someone who truly is dear to us destroyed the friendship or relationship we had with them in exchange for their own sake of happiness. What a selfish act of thinking! How on earth can we know that the one, who we love, could do such stupid things and destroy the trust we had built for them. Well, don’t ask me because I also don’t know the answer (ugh!). All I can say is that you can’t have relationships without...

Your thoughts are flying with what went wrong in your previous relationship even though love has always been there from the beginning. But what happened that suddenly everything was gone?  RESPECT that matters most suddenly collapse without you knowing it. Respect is the highest way to express your feelings for your partner. It's a silent way of communication that builds a strong foundation between two people. Without it, wildness just like a beast is the only thing left. Then the result is feeling degraded and the only thing remaining is just a physical appearances. Here are some advise where you can show respect to your partner: 1.       Always listen attentively whenever your partner is talking. 2.       Show appreciation in any simple way you know. 3.         Don’t let your humour turn to hurting her/his feelings. 4.       Never violate the privacy of o...

Have you ever wondered why you meet a person randomly and how that person can affect your life forever?  Here is how my story goes. I’ve met my husband way back in 2003 which was the enrolment day in our school. I was looking for a friend of mine and of all the people there in the corridor, I had randomly chosen to ask him. He was very accommodating and friendly. I thought he was only doing that because he was part of the student assistant program that assisted during the enrolment period. I did not know that day would be a life changing day for me. Well, I only just met my destined person to be with for the rest of my life. I am not sure if it is destiny or just plainly a coincidence. Nevertheless, I was glad I met him that day.  A friend once told me that every person you’ve met, even a total stranger, has a reason and can really affect your life.  I remembered those words until now.  It felt ironic because whenever I’m feeling low, and even when...