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A Friendship That Crossed Borders

Some friendships are loud and obvious. Others are quiet, rare, and so genuine that you only realize their value when life tests you. This is about one of those rare friendships. She came all the way from Indonesia to Singapore just to see me and that alone says more than a thousand words ever could. In a world where people are always busy, always rushing, always distracted, finding someone who makes time for you feels almost unreal. Genuine friendship is hard to find. The kind that lasts forever is even harder. Most people don’t have time to listen. They hear you, but they don’t listen. But she listens, always. With patience. With care. Without judgment. Most people don’t want to help. They step back when things get hard. But she steps forward every single time. Helping not because she has to, but because she genuinely wants to. She is one of the kindest people I know. I once said that I have a wall around my life, a wall that protects me and keeps people at a distance. Not many can...
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Relationship & Trust


I don’t know how to start this when my topic is about TRUST. Actually, I had trust issues with others but later on I’ve learned how to deal with it. Maybe because I was seriously traumatized during my past experiences with a loveone, a friend or even a family member. I had experiences of being emotionally hurt and betrayed. I don’t have any words on how to describe my feelings when I gave my best and everything to them and in the end they would disrespect me and made me feel stupid. 

It is sad to think that everyone of us had been in the losing end of betrayal when someone who truly is dear to us destroyed the friendship or relationship we had with them in exchange for their own sake of happiness. What a selfish act of thinking! How on earth can we know that the one, who we love, could do such stupid things and destroy the trust we had built for them. Well, don’t ask me because I also don’t know the answer (ugh!).

All I can say is that you can’t have relationships without trust! So to make it workout, both sides should know its value. Here are some simple things to remember on how to build trust:

1. Always be honest. Never ever lie. Dishonesty is one factor that kills trust and starts rusting your relationship.

2. Be faithful all the time. This is difficult for some people but think what will be the consequences of your actions before entering to an affair. This takes a long time for trust to be recovered or worse case, it can never be back.

3. Don’t be paranoid. Stop thinking about cheating. When he really wants to do it by his own freewill, it will happen. Only let positivity drive your mind.

4. Stop being jealous. Too much of insecurities can harm both of you. Sometimes your partner tells you “white lies” so that you won’t feel jealous, then when you find out that he/she is lying, you will start to be paranoid and distrust him.

Remember trust is like a mirror. You can fix it once it’s broken but it can never be the same again.

Relationship & Trust

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