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A Warm Person but Misunderstood

There are moments in life when you feel unseen, even when you are right there. Sometimes, being quiet makes people assume you are cold or distant. But behind that calm silence is often a person full of warmth, love, and depth, just someone who expresses it differently. This is my story about being a warm person who is often misunderstood. The Quiet Side of Me Sometimes I feel like people do not really see who I am. I am a woman of few words, and maybe that is why I am often misunderstood. I do not talk much, but that does not mean I do not care. In fact, I care more than I show. I just express it quietly and in my own way. I am warm, but my warmth is gentle, not loud or demanding. I listen, I observe, and I try to understand people before I speak. But when I feel that I do not belong, or when I sense that I am not truly welcomed, something inside me quietly shuts down. The wall that has been with me for years slowly rises again, protecting me from being hurt. Silence Is My Safe Spa...
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Relationship & Trust


I don’t know how to start this when my topic is about TRUST. Actually, I had trust issues with others but later on I’ve learned how to deal with it. Maybe because I was seriously traumatized during my past experiences with a loveone, a friend or even a family member. I had experiences of being emotionally hurt and betrayed. I don’t have any words on how to describe my feelings when I gave my best and everything to them and in the end they would disrespect me and made me feel stupid. 

It is sad to think that everyone of us had been in the losing end of betrayal when someone who truly is dear to us destroyed the friendship or relationship we had with them in exchange for their own sake of happiness. What a selfish act of thinking! How on earth can we know that the one, who we love, could do such stupid things and destroy the trust we had built for them. Well, don’t ask me because I also don’t know the answer (ugh!).

All I can say is that you can’t have relationships without trust! So to make it workout, both sides should know its value. Here are some simple things to remember on how to build trust:

1. Always be honest. Never ever lie. Dishonesty is one factor that kills trust and starts rusting your relationship.

2. Be faithful all the time. This is difficult for some people but think what will be the consequences of your actions before entering to an affair. This takes a long time for trust to be recovered or worse case, it can never be back.

3. Don’t be paranoid. Stop thinking about cheating. When he really wants to do it by his own freewill, it will happen. Only let positivity drive your mind.

4. Stop being jealous. Too much of insecurities can harm both of you. Sometimes your partner tells you “white lies” so that you won’t feel jealous, then when you find out that he/she is lying, you will start to be paranoid and distrust him.

Remember trust is like a mirror. You can fix it once it’s broken but it can never be the same again.

Relationship & Trust

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