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Positivity Amidst the Lockdown

A few months before 2020,   I bet  everyone  of us has already laid out plans for the coming year.  Given quite a number of long weekends, w e already have a good idea for our vacation plans, how will we utilize our work leaves and where will we go during our holidays. Then enter 2020.  January proved to be not a good start of the year. There were volcanoes erupting, celebrities dying and yes of course Covid-19  pandemic . Covid-19  pandemic  which is caused by the Coronavirus  resulted for  most of  us to be locked  down in the comforts of our own homes. Employees were advised to work from home and stay away from the public to contain the spread of the virus. Unfortunately for some, their livelihood was taken away because working from home is not feasible and their company has no means to sustain the workforce. Experts say that the world will be going to a period of depression and many more jobs will be inevitably ...

Relationship & Trust


I don’t know how to start this when my topic is about TRUST. Actually, I had trust issues with others but later on I’ve learned how to deal with it. Maybe because I was seriously traumatized during my past experiences with a loveone, a friend or even a family member. I had experiences of being emotionally hurt and betrayed. I don’t have any words on how to describe my feelings when I gave my best and everything to them and in the end they would disrespect me and made me feel stupid. 

It is sad to think that everyone of us had been in the losing end of betrayal when someone who truly is dear to us destroyed the friendship or relationship we had with them in exchange for their own sake of happiness. What a selfish act of thinking! How on earth can we know that the one, who we love, could do such stupid things and destroy the trust we had built for them. Well, don’t ask me because I also don’t know the answer (ugh!).

All I can say is that you can’t have relationships without trust! So to make it workout, both sides should know its value. Here are some simple things to remember on how to build trust:

1. Always be honest. Never ever lie. Dishonesty is one factor that kills trust and starts rusting your relationship.

2. Be faithful all the time. This is difficult for some people but think what will be the consequences of your actions before entering to an affair. This takes a long time for trust to be recovered or worse case, it can never be back.

3. Don’t be paranoid. Stop thinking about cheating. When he really wants to do it by his own freewill, it will happen. Only let positivity drive your mind.

4. Stop being jealous. Too much of insecurities can harm both of you. Sometimes your partner tells you “white lies” so that you won’t feel jealous, then when you find out that he/she is lying, you will start to be paranoid and distrust him.

Remember trust is like a mirror. You can fix it once it’s broken but it can never be the same again.

Relationship & Trust

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