A few months before 2020, I bet everyone of us has already laid out plans for the coming year. Given quite a number of long weekends, w e already have a good idea for our vacation plans, how will we utilize our work leaves and where will we go during our holidays. Then enter 2020. January proved to be not a good start of the year. There were volcanoes erupting, celebrities dying and yes of course Covid-19 pandemic . Covid-19 pandemic which is caused by the Coronavirus resulted for most of us to be locked down in the comforts of our own homes. Employees were advised to work from home and stay away from the public to contain the spread of the virus. Unfortunately for some, their livelihood was taken away because working from home is not feasible and their company has no means to sustain the workforce. Experts say that the world will be going to a period of depression and many more jobs will be inevitably ...
A relationship without arguments is not a real relationship.
Argument often happens because of misunderstandings. This is very true in our
relationship and I’m sure ours is not the only one. The toughest part of every
argument is what happens after. How do we reconcile? Who to talk first? What to
say?
Before getting married, we attended our pre-cana. For those who
don’t know what a pre-cana is, it is a course or consultation for couples
preparing to be married in a Catholic church. Our wedding priest told us that
instead of saying “I’m sorry”, tell your spouse “please forgive me”.
What is the difference between “I’m sorry” and “please forgive
me”?
The easier way to ask for forgiveness is saying “I’m sorry”. But
are you really asking for forgiveness or you’re just saying it to get the
apology over with? Saying “I’m sorry” has no feel of sincerity on it. Actually,
it asks for nothing and there is no feeling of atonement or acceptance of
fault.
On the other hand, saying “please forgive me” is sincerely
asking for forgiveness. It has compassion, humbleness and most important is the
acceptance of mistake committed. It is a harder way of asking for an apology
but a more sincere way.
I just want to share with you how my husband and I settle every
after argument. If there is a time that we’ve got into a situation that we have
a misunderstanding, whether it is big or small, intentional or unintentional,
and then we came to a point that we don’t talk. If my husband or I admitted the
mistake (fyi, usually my husband is at fault) we usually say “Please forgive
me” and the other one responds “I forgive you”. Guys remember, it should be
uttered with the look in the eyes to see how sincere your partner is. I know
it’s corny to imagine, but it works for us for many years now. When those words
had already been said, there is no more anger, bwisit feelings with each other.
It’s like nothing had happened.
Anyway, those words are not only needed to be said, but couples
also need to discuss what was the source of the problem, how it became wrong or
how did it hurt your partner, and most especially what the solution is so that
it won’t happen again.
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