Friendship is one of the most beautiful things in life. It’s not just about having fun together or talking every day. It’s about being there for each other, even when life gets busy or hard. Some friendships are easy when everything is going well. But real friendship gets tested. It’s tested by distance, by silence, and by time. And the ones that survive these quiet tests are truly special. Sometimes, we move to new cities or take different paths. We don’t see our friends as often as we used to. But true friendship doesn’t depend on being close every day. It’s about feeling close, even when we’re far apart. One message, one memory, or one call can remind us how strong the bond still is. Life also brings silence. We don’t always have time to talk. We get busy. But silence doesn’t always mean distance. With true friends, even after long gaps, we can pick up right where we left off. There’s no pressure to explain — just an unspoken understanding that we’re still here for each other. T...
A relationship without arguments is not a real relationship.
Argument often happens because of misunderstandings. This is very true in our
relationship and I’m sure ours is not the only one. The toughest part of every
argument is what happens after. How do we reconcile? Who to talk first? What to
say?
Before getting married, we attended our pre-cana. For those who
don’t know what a pre-cana is, it is a course or consultation for couples
preparing to be married in a Catholic church. Our wedding priest told us that
instead of saying “I’m sorry”, tell your spouse “please forgive me”.
What is the difference between “I’m sorry” and “please forgive
me”?
The easier way to ask for forgiveness is saying “I’m sorry”. But
are you really asking for forgiveness or you’re just saying it to get the
apology over with? Saying “I’m sorry” has no feel of sincerity on it. Actually,
it asks for nothing and there is no feeling of atonement or acceptance of
fault.
On the other hand, saying “please forgive me” is sincerely
asking for forgiveness. It has compassion, humbleness and most important is the
acceptance of mistake committed. It is a harder way of asking for an apology
but a more sincere way.
I just want to share with you how my husband and I settle every
after argument. If there is a time that we’ve got into a situation that we have
a misunderstanding, whether it is big or small, intentional or unintentional,
and then we came to a point that we don’t talk. If my husband or I admitted the
mistake (fyi, usually my husband is at fault) we usually say “Please forgive
me” and the other one responds “I forgive you”. Guys remember, it should be
uttered with the look in the eyes to see how sincere your partner is. I know
it’s corny to imagine, but it works for us for many years now. When those words
had already been said, there is no more anger, bwisit feelings with each other.
It’s like nothing had happened.
Anyway, those words are not only needed to be said, but couples
also need to discuss what was the source of the problem, how it became wrong or
how did it hurt your partner, and most especially what the solution is so that
it won’t happen again.
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