Ever since I was young, I knew I wanted to finish school. I have always been bright and curious, eager to learn, but life was not easy. School felt like a ladder I had to climb. Each step was hard and required all my strength. I worked part time jobs, attended tutorials, and became a student assistant just to keep going. Some nights, I came home so tired my body ached, yet I opened my books by the dim light of a lamp, determined not to fall behind. Finally, I reached the top. I finished school. I am proud not just of surviving, but of using my mind and determination to overcome the challenges. But I know not every student can climb this ladder. Many want to learn, but they do not have the support, strength, or resources to balance work and school. That is why I believe our government must pay more attention to education. I am grateful for the programs and support that exist, but sometimes the money does not reach the students who need it most. Some people take advantage of the system, ...
The words we say...
“Speak out in anger and you’ll
make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” One of my friends posted this
statement from Tara Brach. I found it very interesting because every one of us at
least once (many for me) has this experience of saying things that we don’t
mean and ended up regretting every word we said.
When we are angry do you think the
truth comes out or we just said things that we don’t mean?
Both can be true, but in most cases it is the latter.
Sometimes, when we are angry, our emotions get the best of us and our mouth becomes an open gate to say everything that we’ve been keeping for so long. These are the “painful truths” that only come out when we are angry. Our anger fuels our courage to say what has been bottled up inside. However, after bursting out all our anger, it is impossible to erase those words and feelings that have been revealed.
Everybody say stupid things when
angry. Most of the times when we are angry we say things that we don’t really
mean. It is just to get even and piss off the other party. We say words that
can hurt a person even though they are not true. We say words that are very
insulting, degrading and very much unacceptable.
Us women, we like to talk, we
like to nag and I hate to admit it, but we like to control things. The thing
that makes us angry the most is when a person doesn’t listen. That’s an art
that was mastered by my husband. Whenever we quarrel, he just keeps quite and
stares to space. After I finish all the nagging, he just goes back to his
normal life as if something did not happened. He just sits down the couch, gets
the remote and starts flipping on channels. And that makes me very irritated! Don’t
get me wrong, he does apologize. He waits for the situation to calm down then
he makes he’s move. He has this knack not fighting fire with fire. Come to
think of it, that works for us. When we are angry, we don’t think and don’t
control our emotions. Harsh words slip out and we end up regretting every word
we blurted out. The problem is it’s too late. Words once said cannot be unheard
and very difficult to take back.
When we are angry, these are some
few reminders to think about and what has to be done so that misunderstandings
can be taken under control.
1. Listen
to understand not to respond.
2. Better
to be quiet and let the moment cool down before saying anything.
3. Take
a walk so you can release your anger and think things.
4. Change your focus from anger to other productive things like cleaning the house.
4. Change your focus from anger to other productive things like cleaning the house.
5. When
words had been already said, don’t forget to ask for forgiveness.
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