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A Friendship That Crossed Borders

Some friendships are loud and obvious. Others are quiet, rare, and so genuine that you only realize their value when life tests you. This is about one of those rare friendships. She came all the way from Indonesia to Singapore just to see me and that alone says more than a thousand words ever could. In a world where people are always busy, always rushing, always distracted, finding someone who makes time for you feels almost unreal. Genuine friendship is hard to find. The kind that lasts forever is even harder. Most people don’t have time to listen. They hear you, but they don’t listen. But she listens, always. With patience. With care. Without judgment. Most people don’t want to help. They step back when things get hard. But she steps forward every single time. Helping not because she has to, but because she genuinely wants to. She is one of the kindest people I know. I once said that I have a wall around my life, a wall that protects me and keeps people at a distance. Not many can...
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Dating vs Being Married


Dating is the early stage of the relationship where both show off the good and shiny version of ourselves. It’s the time when we put our best foot forward and try to impress one another. As time passes by, we became more settled, feelings grow deeper and eventually get married. As we get more comfortable with each other, we tend to notice some changes in our partners, and I think most couples will agree.

Marriage can be wonderful. It can be an overflowing feeling of happiness. On the other hand, it can also turn out to be the worst thing that could happen to you. It’s essential to use the dating stages to get to know and be familiar with our partner. It can help decide whether you want to have that commitment. But sad to say, people hide what their true colors are.

Nobody is perfect. When you decide to live together in the same roof, that’s the time you will really know who your partner is. If you find his ugly version of himself, will you give up? It’s your choice. People have different views about this. But for me, marriage is for thick and thin. 

Below are some of the differences between dating and marriage.

1. Calling Time

During dating, we can talk hours on the phone. We can’t even notice what time is it already. When married, just a minute to ask where are you and who is with you is enough. The moment we know who is with our partner, we already know what he is up to.

2. How people walk

During dating, holding hands always brings spark to partners. When married, the moment my husband sees a shoe shop, its bye, see you later.

3. Carrying Things

During dating, the concept of chivalry is very much alive. You feel like a lady that your knight in shining armor is always there to carry your things and be at your aide all the time. When married, you argue why you have to bring a lot of things in your purse that has no use.

4. Goal Differs

When dating, both are wide spender. When married, budget becomes a thing because you both know what to prioritize.

Everyone has its own positive and negative traits. My husband always says that our relationship gets better and better like fine wine. Every day is a blessings to wake up knowing that we love each other no matter what will happen. 

I hope you’ll find your special someone and you live with heart full of happiness!

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