Some friendships are loud and obvious. Others are quiet, rare, and so genuine that you only realize their value when life tests you. This is about one of those rare friendships. She came all the way from Indonesia to Singapore just to see me and that alone says more than a thousand words ever could. In a world where people are always busy, always rushing, always distracted, finding someone who makes time for you feels almost unreal. Genuine friendship is hard to find. The kind that lasts forever is even harder. Most people don’t have time to listen. They hear you, but they don’t listen. But she listens, always. With patience. With care. Without judgment. Most people don’t want to help. They step back when things get hard. But she steps forward every single time. Helping not because she has to, but because she genuinely wants to. She is one of the kindest people I know. I once said that I have a wall around my life, a wall that protects me and keeps people at a distance. Not many can...
A relationship without arguments is not a real relationship. Argument often happens because of misunderstandings. This is very true in our relationship and I’m sure ours is not the only one. The toughest part of every argument is what happens after. How do we reconcile? Who to talk first? What to say? Before getting married, we attended our pre-cana. For those who don’t know what a pre-cana is, it is a course or consultation for couples preparing to be married in a Catholic church. Our wedding priest told us that instead of saying “I’m sorry”, tell your spouse “please forgive me”. What is the difference between “I’m sorry” and “please forgive me”? The easier way to ask for forgiveness is saying “I’m sorry”. But are you really asking for forgiveness or you’re just saying it to get the apology over with? Saying “I’m sorry” has no feel of sincerity on it. Actually, it asks for nothing and there is no feeling of atonement or acceptance of fault. On the other hand, saying ...