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A Friendship That Crossed Borders

Some friendships are loud and obvious. Others are quiet, rare, and so genuine that you only realize their value when life tests you. This is about one of those rare friendships. She came all the way from Indonesia to Singapore just to see me and that alone says more than a thousand words ever could. In a world where people are always busy, always rushing, always distracted, finding someone who makes time for you feels almost unreal. Genuine friendship is hard to find. The kind that lasts forever is even harder. Most people don’t have time to listen. They hear you, but they don’t listen. But she listens, always. With patience. With care. Without judgment. Most people don’t want to help. They step back when things get hard. But she steps forward every single time. Helping not because she has to, but because she genuinely wants to. She is one of the kindest people I know. I once said that I have a wall around my life, a wall that protects me and keeps people at a distance. Not many can...

Relationship & Trust

I don’t know how to start this when my topic is about TRUST. Actually, I had trust issues with others but later on I’ve learned how to deal with it. Maybe because I was seriously traumatized during my past experiences with a loveone, a friend or even a family member. I had experiences of being emotionally hurt and betrayed. I don’t have any words on how to describe my feelings when I gave my best and everything to them and in the end they would disrespect me and made me feel stupid.  It is sad to think that everyone of us had been in the losing end of betrayal when someone who truly is dear to us destroyed the friendship or relationship we had with them in exchange for their own sake of happiness. What a selfish act of thinking! How on earth can we know that the one, who we love, could do such stupid things and destroy the trust we had built for them. Well, don’t ask me because I also don’t know the answer (ugh!). All I can say is that you can’t have relationships without...

Respect Matters

Your thoughts are flying with what went wrong in your previous relationship even though love has always been there from the beginning. But what happened that suddenly everything was gone?  RESPECT that matters most suddenly collapse without you knowing it. Respect is the highest way to express your feelings for your partner. It's a silent way of communication that builds a strong foundation between two people. Without it, wildness just like a beast is the only thing left. Then the result is feeling degraded and the only thing remaining is just a physical appearances. Here are some advise where you can show respect to your partner: 1.       Always listen attentively whenever your partner is talking. 2.       Show appreciation in any simple way you know. 3.         Don’t let your humour turn to hurting her/his feelings. 4.       Never violate the privacy of o...

Coincidence or Destiny?

Have you ever wondered why you meet a person randomly and how that person can affect your life forever?  Here is how my story goes. I’ve met my husband way back in 2003 which was the enrolment day in our school. I was looking for a friend of mine and of all the people there in the corridor, I had randomly chosen to ask him. He was very accommodating and friendly. I thought he was only doing that because he was part of the student assistant program that assisted during the enrolment period. I did not know that day would be a life changing day for me. Well, I only just met my destined person to be with for the rest of my life. I am not sure if it is destiny or just plainly a coincidence. Nevertheless, I was glad I met him that day.  A friend once told me that every person you’ve met, even a total stranger, has a reason and can really affect your life.  I remembered those words until now.  It felt ironic because whenever I’m feeling low, and even when...