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A Friendship That Crossed Borders

Some friendships are loud and obvious. Others are quiet, rare, and so genuine that you only realize their value when life tests you. This is about one of those rare friendships. She came all the way from Indonesia to Singapore just to see me and that alone says more than a thousand words ever could. In a world where people are always busy, always rushing, always distracted, finding someone who makes time for you feels almost unreal. Genuine friendship is hard to find. The kind that lasts forever is even harder. Most people don’t have time to listen. They hear you, but they don’t listen. But she listens, always. With patience. With care. Without judgment. Most people don’t want to help. They step back when things get hard. But she steps forward every single time. Helping not because she has to, but because she genuinely wants to. She is one of the kindest people I know. I once said that I have a wall around my life, a wall that protects me and keeps people at a distance. Not many can...
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How to make long distance relationship work?


Long distance relationship or LDR can be very difficult. It either makes your relationship or it breaks it.

My husband and I go way back. We’ve been dating since 2003 and got married in 2012. Since we started, almost half of our time were spent separately, because of our career. It was not easy part of our relationship when we were used to be always together most of the time then suddenly because of our careers we decided to live separately. It was difficult especially for me and for my husband, boyfriend back then seemed happy with the situation (lol).

Distance disconnects bonds. It is prone to miscommunication that leads to misunderstanding in turn breaks trust. So to make this work out, you need to beat the situation. Do not be discouraged when somebody tells you that LDR won’t work. Yes, it is true, only few relationships survive this. It’s difficult but possible and rest assured, it won’t be easy. Things will be complicated. There will be situations that you cannot control. But never the less, you need to go through all of this as part of life.



LDR can be healthy if both parties take action. Everything is possible! How can you spend time together when you are a thousand miles away? In today’s generation we are fortunate to have the power of the internet. In our case, aside from constant communication, my husband and I play online games, watch movie streaming together and to my husband’s annoyance my frequent check-ups on his whereabouts. But be careful, sometimes too much chatting can be a bad thing. Avoid hours of talking. If you don’t have topic to talk about you end up arguing. Also try to know each other’s schedule so you’ll know if he’s free or not. Try to avoid arguing rather make it a fun and a healthy communication! Effective communication plays a huge factor in every relationship whether LDR or not. Honesty and understanding are vital for any relationship.

Make this LDR be an opportunity to build trust. When you survive this LDR set-up, your relationship can survive anything.



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