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Positivity Amidst the Lockdown

A few months before 2020,   I bet  everyone  of us has already laid out plans for the coming year.  Given quite a number of long weekends, w e already have a good idea for our vacation plans, how will we utilize our work leaves and where will we go during our holidays. Then enter 2020.  January proved to be not a good start of the year. There were volcanoes erupting, celebrities dying and yes of course Covid-19  pandemic . Covid-19  pandemic  which is caused by the Coronavirus  resulted for  most of  us to be locked  down in the comforts of our own homes. Employees were advised to work from home and stay away from the public to contain the spread of the virus. Unfortunately for some, their livelihood was taken away because working from home is not feasible and their company has no means to sustain the workforce. Experts say that the world will be going to a period of depression and many more jobs will be inevitably ...

How to make long distance relationship work?


Long distance relationship or LDR can be very difficult. It either makes your relationship or it breaks it.

My husband and I go way back. We’ve been dating since 2003 and got married in 2012. Since we started, almost half of our time were spent separately, because of our career. It was not easy part of our relationship when we were used to be always together most of the time then suddenly because of our careers we decided to live separately. It was difficult especially for me and for my husband, boyfriend back then seemed happy with the situation (lol).

Distance disconnects bonds. It is prone to miscommunication that leads to misunderstanding in turn breaks trust. So to make this work out, you need to beat the situation. Do not be discouraged when somebody tells you that LDR won’t work. Yes, it is true, only few relationships survive this. It’s difficult but possible and rest assured, it won’t be easy. Things will be complicated. There will be situations that you cannot control. But never the less, you need to go through all of this as part of life.



LDR can be healthy if both parties take action. Everything is possible! How can you spend time together when you are a thousand miles away? In today’s generation we are fortunate to have the power of the internet. In our case, aside from constant communication, my husband and I play online games, watch movie streaming together and to my husband’s annoyance my frequent check-ups on his whereabouts. But be careful, sometimes too much chatting can be a bad thing. Avoid hours of talking. If you don’t have topic to talk about you end up arguing. Also try to know each other’s schedule so you’ll know if he’s free or not. Try to avoid arguing rather make it a fun and a healthy communication! Effective communication plays a huge factor in every relationship whether LDR or not. Honesty and understanding are vital for any relationship.

Make this LDR be an opportunity to build trust. When you survive this LDR set-up, your relationship can survive anything.



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